San Diego, California
Sex coach in San Diego.
Somatic and Tantric coaching for people with very healthy bodies they do not actually live inside. For couples, men and women across San Diego. Sessions held online.
Somatic and Tantric coaching for people with very healthy bodies they do not actually live inside. For couples, men and women across San Diego. Sessions held online.
You can optimise a body for years without ever once being inside it.
San Diego takes physical health seriously in a way most places do not. People here train, surf, eat well, sleep well, track it, and genuinely enjoy their bodies as instruments. That is real and it is not nothing.
But treating your body as a machine to be maintained is its own kind of distance. The relationship is managerial. You assess it, correct it, improve it. What almost nobody practises is the completely different act of surrendering to it. Letting it lead. Feeling something you did not schedule.
So the people who reach me here are often extremely fit, extremely disciplined, and genuinely confused about why intimacy feels effortful when everything else about their physical life feels good.
The nervous system does not update because you reached a conclusion.
You can fully forgive someone and still tense when they walk into the room. You can know beyond doubt that you are safe with your partner and still find yourself somewhere else the moment things get tender. Those are not contradictions and they are not you failing. They are two different systems, running at different speeds, holding different records.
Discipline does not reach this layer either, which is the part that surprises high performing people most. You cannot train your way into feeling. Effort is the language of the part of you that already works. The part that has gone quiet responds to safety and attention, and to almost nothing else.
What that means practically is that sessions are less strenuous than most people expect and more uncomfortable. Slowing down is the hard part.
Four patterns come up again and again here.
Active, well, aligned on everything practical, rarely reaching for each other. Rekindle is built for this.
Disciplined everywhere, unpractised at receiving. The work with men.
Strong, capable, and out of contact with their own wanting. Somatic work for women.
Sleep, training, nutrition, bloodwork. This is the one that does not respond to a protocol.
I am a VITA Certified Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, a Certified Men's Sexuality Coach, a Certified Couple's Tantric Sex Coach, and a Certified Theta Healer. Nine years of practice, more than a hundred workshops and private sessions. In any given hour I am usually drawing on all four of these at once.
Soma means body. Somatic work treats the body as the place where your history is stored rather than a thing you carry your thoughts around in. We work with sensation, breath, movement and attention rather than analysis.
Not what the internet thinks it is. Tantra is a set of practices for staying present with intensity, in the body, without leaving. Most of it has nothing to do with sex. All of it changes sex.
Working at the level of subconscious belief, where the rules you never agreed to are actually kept. Certified through Basic DNA, Advanced DNA, Dig Deeper, Manifesting and Abundance, and You and Your Significant Other.
The fastest route into the nervous system that exists. Breath changes state within minutes, which is why almost every session uses it, and why my group method Soulsation is built entirely from it.
Sessions run 1.5 hours, over private video call, and are always fully clothed. There is no nudity and no touch. The work happens through breath, sensation, voice and attention.
If you have improved most areas of your life by working harder at them, this will be an unfamiliar experience.
Intimacy is not a performance metric and it does not respond to discipline. Trying harder to feel is one of the most reliable ways to feel less. The nervous system reads effort as pressure, and pressure is exactly what it goes quiet under.
What it responds to is safety, slowness and attention. Most of my clients find that harder than any training block they have ever done.
I work internationally and see clients across the United States and beyond. Sessions with San Diego clients are held online over private video call, which is how the large majority of my clients anywhere work with me.
Yes, and it surprises people. The body responds to attention, not proximity. There is also something about doing this from your own space, in your own home, that often makes it easier to let go than a clinical room would.
No. Therapy tends to work through talking and analysis. This works through the body and the nervous system, where desire and safety actually live. I am a VITA certified coach and a certified Theta Healer, not a licensed therapist. If what you need is therapy, or therapy alongside this, I will say so.
No. Sessions are always fully clothed, and there is no touch. The work happens through breath, sensation, movement, voice and attention. Everything you learn, you can take into your own bed with your own partner.
That is normal. Very often one person reaches first. Plenty of the work I do starts with one partner and widens later, and plenty of it stays with one person and still changes the relationship.
Session and container pricing sits on the coaching page. The discovery call is free.
A free 30 minute discovery call. No pressure and no commitment. An honest look at where you are and whether this is the right work for you right now.
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