New York, New York
Sex coach in New York.
Somatic and Tantric coaching for people who understand their patterns perfectly and still cannot feel differently. For couples, men and women across New York. Sessions held online.
Somatic and Tantric coaching for people who understand their patterns perfectly and still cannot feel differently. For couples, men and women across New York. Sessions held online.
You can run an extraordinary life on competence alone for a very long time before anything visibly breaks.
New York rewards output. People here are exceptional at deciding what matters, allocating time to it, and executing. That skill builds careers. Applied to intimacy it slowly turns a relationship into a well managed project between two people who are both very tired.
The couples I see from New York rarely arrive in crisis. They arrive efficient. They have divided the labour, protected the calendar, agreed on the big things, and stopped reaching for each other somewhere along the way without either of them deciding to.
Nobody schedules the moment they stop wanting. It just quietly stops appearing on the list.
This is the single most common thing I hear, and New York says it more than anywhere.
People arrive having done the reading, the therapy, the attachment style quizzes and the hard conversations. They can name their pattern in one sentence. And they are still living inside it.
The reason is structural. Insight is stored in the part of you that reasons. The pattern is stored in the part of you that reacts, which is faster, older, and does not consult the reasoning part before acting. By the time you have remembered what you know about yourself, your body has already flinched, already gone flat, already found a reason to stay up working.
Somatic work goes underneath the reasoning. We do not discuss the flinch. We find it while it is happening, stay with it, and give the nervous system a different experience of what happens next. That is the mechanism by which anything actually changes.
Four patterns come up again and again here.
Aligned, functional, respectful, and no longer lovers. Rekindle is the six month container built for this.
Everything works except the part that was supposed to make it worth it. The work with men.
Competent for everyone, available to no one, including themselves. Somatic work for women.
Often still in therapy, and doing this alongside it. The two work well together because they work on different layers.
I am a VITA Certified Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, a Certified Men's Sexuality Coach, a Certified Couple's Tantric Sex Coach, and a Certified Theta Healer. Nine years of practice, more than a hundred workshops and private sessions. In any given hour I am usually drawing on all four of these at once.
Soma means body. Somatic work treats the body as the place where your history is stored rather than a thing you carry your thoughts around in. We work with sensation, breath, movement and attention rather than analysis.
Not what the internet thinks it is. Tantra is a set of practices for staying present with intensity, in the body, without leaving. Most of it has nothing to do with sex. All of it changes sex.
Working at the level of subconscious belief, where the rules you never agreed to are actually kept. Certified through Basic DNA, Advanced DNA, Dig Deeper, Manifesting and Abundance, and You and Your Significant Other.
The fastest route into the nervous system that exists. Breath changes state within minutes, which is why almost every session uses it, and why my group method Soulsation is built entirely from it.
Sessions run 1.5 hours, over private video call, and are always fully clothed. There is no nudity and no touch. The work happens through breath, sensation, voice and attention.
A lot of my New York clients keep their therapist. I encourage it.
Therapy is where you make sense of your history, and that matters. This is where the body learns something new is possible. One gives you the map. The other changes the terrain.
What I do is not a substitute for clinical care and I will tell you plainly if what is in front of us needs a licensed professional instead.
I work internationally and see clients across the United States and beyond. Sessions with New York clients are held online over private video call, which is how the large majority of my clients anywhere work with me.
Yes, and it surprises people. The body responds to attention, not proximity. There is also something about doing this from your own space, in your own home, that often makes it easier to let go than a clinical room would.
No. Therapy tends to work through talking and analysis. This works through the body and the nervous system, where desire and safety actually live. I am a VITA certified coach and a certified Theta Healer, not a licensed therapist. If what you need is therapy, or therapy alongside this, I will say so.
No. Sessions are always fully clothed, and there is no touch. The work happens through breath, sensation, movement, voice and attention. Everything you learn, you can take into your own bed with your own partner.
That is normal. Very often one person reaches first. Plenty of the work I do starts with one partner and widens later, and plenty of it stays with one person and still changes the relationship.
Session and container pricing sits on the coaching page. The discovery call is free.
A free 30 minute discovery call. No pressure and no commitment. An honest look at where you are and whether this is the right work for you right now.
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