Los Angeles, California
Sex coach in Los Angeles.
Somatic and Tantric coaching for people who have done a great deal of work on themselves and still cannot feel it. For couples, men and women across Los Angeles. Sessions held online.
Somatic and Tantric coaching for people who have done a great deal of work on themselves and still cannot feel it. For couples, men and women across Los Angeles. Sessions held online.
Fluency in the language of healing is not the same as having healed.
Nowhere else are people this well equipped. Everyone has a therapist, a modality, a practice, a vocabulary. People here can discuss attachment, nervous systems and inner children with real sophistication. Some of it has genuinely helped.
And there is a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from having done everything correctly and still lying next to someone feeling nothing. That is most of what walks into my practice from Los Angeles.
Part of it is that this is a city built on presentation, and presentation is a skill that does not switch off at the bedroom door. When you have spent your professional life managing how you are perceived, being perceived accurately by one person becomes genuinely difficult.
Almost everything you have heard about Tantra is marketing. It is not a sex technique, it is not about lasting longer, and the vast majority of it has nothing to do with sex at all.
Tantra is a set of practices for staying present with intensity without leaving. Intensity meaning any sensation strong enough that your usual response is to numb, distract, perform or dissociate. Pleasure counts. So does grief, rage, fear and being genuinely seen.
The reason it changes people's sex lives so dramatically is not that it teaches better technique. It is that most sexual difficulty is a leaving problem. You go somewhere else. Into your head, into performing, into monitoring how you look, into checking whether the other person is fine. Tantra trains the capacity to stay.
I am a Certified Couple's Tantric Sex Coach and a Certified Men's Sexuality Coach, and I teach it the practical way. No robes, no dogma, no chanting unless you want to.
Four patterns come up again and again here.
Fluent, communicative, endlessly willing to talk about it, and not touching. Rekindle is the six month container for this.
Successful at being perceived, unpractised at being met. The work with men.
Deep practice, real self knowledge, and a body that still will not let go. Somatic work for women.
They have tried a great deal. Usually what is missing is not another framework, it is the body.
I am a VITA Certified Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, a Certified Men's Sexuality Coach, a Certified Couple's Tantric Sex Coach, and a Certified Theta Healer. Nine years of practice, more than a hundred workshops and private sessions. In any given hour I am usually drawing on all four of these at once.
Soma means body. Somatic work treats the body as the place where your history is stored rather than a thing you carry your thoughts around in. We work with sensation, breath, movement and attention rather than analysis.
Not what the internet thinks it is. Tantra is a set of practices for staying present with intensity, in the body, without leaving. Most of it has nothing to do with sex. All of it changes sex.
Working at the level of subconscious belief, where the rules you never agreed to are actually kept. Certified through Basic DNA, Advanced DNA, Dig Deeper, Manifesting and Abundance, and You and Your Significant Other.
The fastest route into the nervous system that exists. Breath changes state within minutes, which is why almost every session uses it, and why my group method Soulsation is built entirely from it.
Sessions run 1.5 hours, over private video call, and are always fully clothed. There is no nudity and no touch. The work happens through breath, sensation, voice and attention.
If you have already done years of therapy, coaching, plant medicine and personal development, I want to be honest with you about what this is and is not.
This is not a new lens on your childhood. You very likely have enough of those. What this offers is repetition at the level of the nervous system, which is slower and much less interesting to talk about, and is the only thing I have found that reliably changes what a person can actually feel.
It is unglamorous work. It also tends to be the thing that finally moves after everything else has explained.
I work internationally and see clients across the United States and beyond. Sessions with Los Angeles clients are held online over private video call, which is how the large majority of my clients anywhere work with me.
Yes, and it surprises people. The body responds to attention, not proximity. There is also something about doing this from your own space, in your own home, that often makes it easier to let go than a clinical room would.
No. Therapy tends to work through talking and analysis. This works through the body and the nervous system, where desire and safety actually live. I am a VITA certified coach and a certified Theta Healer, not a licensed therapist. If what you need is therapy, or therapy alongside this, I will say so.
No. Sessions are always fully clothed, and there is no touch. The work happens through breath, sensation, movement, voice and attention. Everything you learn, you can take into your own bed with your own partner.
That is normal. Very often one person reaches first. Plenty of the work I do starts with one partner and widens later, and plenty of it stays with one person and still changes the relationship.
Session and container pricing sits on the coaching page. The discovery call is free.
A free 30 minute discovery call. No pressure and no commitment. An honest look at where you are and whether this is the right work for you right now.
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